The Global Dealers Among Us: Insecurities

WRITTEN BY FATHIMA HASHEENA HASSAN CLASS OF 2028

Insecurities could be described as feeling less secured of ourselves. It can be due to social, mental, physical or even spiritual reasons. Indeed, they are global dealers because all of us have at least encountered them irrespective of one’s age, race, nationality or the society we live in. The feeling of being less secured can be a crucial phase for anyone of us. Such a person may suffer with severe anxiety, loss of confidence, depression, one could even pass through suicidal thoughts. But still, the tables can turn, where one tries to use their insecurities to work on themselves and create a better version of them thereby, overcoming their Insecurities.

INTRODUCTION

Nowadays, the concept to ‘fit in’ is a subtle concept that is mostly heard. The actual query is when one doubts themselves and arises questioning their compatibility. A major reason for questioning ourselves is because we feel lack of secureness or in simple terms, insecurities. This seems to be an ordinary word that is heard among us frequently, but this word carries an enormous depth for itself. Further, insecurities are encountered at least one time in our life irrespective of one’s mental, physical, social or even spiritual background. Indeed, they are global dealers which do not consider any of the age, gender, nationality, race, financial or personal boundaries. Let us thoroughly look into some insecurities and on how it impacts on our human minds.

PHYSICAL AND MENTAL INSECURITIES

There could be various different insecurities among each one of us. A major physical and mental insecurity could be body shame which is apparently not a new term to mention. Body shame makes one think that he or she does not look normal from the majority of people who are living in a community together. According to Fauzia, victims of body shaming were categorized as fat shaming, thin shaming, hair shaming, and skin tone shaming. Even though, body shaming depicts the physical insecurities of a person, it disturbs one's mentality quite deeply. Therefore, body shaming can not only be considered as one’s physical insecurity but also one’s mental insecurity as well. However, almost all the insecurities affect one's mentality.

SOCIAL INSECURITIES

As we all know, fitting into the society is not easy as it seems, actually it is when we fall into the trap of social insecurities as the not so standardized world has set up certain social standards where one must reach. To see the bright side of it, social standards are essential to bring the world equivalent as one irrespective of their culture, traditions, time schedules or earth science. As people we tend to forget the objective of the so-called social standards.

This gets even complicated, when each one of us start hustling to reach these social standards. As people we tend to forget the objective of the so called social standards. This gets even complicated, when each one of us start hustling to reach these social standards. People tend to forget that people are created with unique abilities depicting our wonderful uniqueness. Beauty standards, academic standards, relationship standards are some of the unfortunate common social standards which make people feel insecure about themselves.

In fact, beauty is necessary for ourselves to look better and to feel better but it does not mean it requires else bodies acceptance. Out of luck, the society tends to comment on the good or bad of others. Aging has been a major complication among the society when considering the beauty standards. The popular well known celebrities all around the world are mostly victimized to this category as the society expects them to look picture perfect at every moment. Undoubtedly, most children become victims of social insecurities unknowingly. Indeed, it is when it comes to academic standards. Education is pretty much important for a person which emphasizes one's knowledge and wisdom. But it is important to know that each child have their own potentials which they can reach out for. It is a very thin lining between motivating the child to achieve their goals and stressing the child and make him or her a victim of social insecurities. Relationship standards or in other words, the family status of one person which is considered as a personal matter have also become a part of social insecurities. It is reasonable to assume that it is inappropriate. Because none of us have specific bounded days, ages or times in these matters which the society likely forgets.

SPIRITUAL INSECURITIES

Some people may even feel spiritual insecurities according to their thoughts and their obstacles in life. Some of the reasons could be because they are feeling spiritually detached, thoughts of questioning their own existence, feeling of anger, exhaustion, anxiety due to other external challenges they encounter in life.

NEGATIVE OUTCOMES OF INSECURITIES

Certainly, insecurity is so much more about pessimism it does not just end here. The feelings of disapproval, feelings of hesitation, feelings of unwillingness all muster up and affects a person in the worse ways possible. Lack of confidence. low self-esteem, using of negative coping mechanisms like self-abuse, mental health issues like depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts can be worse possible outcomes of these piled-up insecurities. 

THE GOOD IN EVERY BAD

Definitely. since there is good in every bad let us now look at the positive aspect of insecurities. This could be a crucial point in any of our life to transform our negative thoughts to positive ones where one sharpens up their weapons against their enemy.

CONCLUSION

Assuredly, it is a known fact that we are not perfect and are not to be made or forced into perfectionism. In fact, people are full with their uniqueness. People are differently abled and talented in different fields. Therefore, attempting to understand the concept of self-acceptance, self-worthiness, self-love could help one to see the favourable outcomes of insecurities. Some people even tend to overcome their insecurities by achieving certain goals and hustling for them so they eventually reach their secured levels. We are all people who require a little more love and a little more care. Nobody gets the privilege to decide who, what or how you are to be. Thus, do not forget to shower some love for yourself and not to be harsh on yourself either. Become your own medicine and embrace how great you are.