Who is standing between you and your desired life?

WRITTEN BY: RESHANI NAVINDIKA CLASS OF 2024

This blog is to address few main ideas about how to create the life you desire. Hope to discuss about the determinants of success in your desired life.

The center of attention of the topic ‘Who is standing between you and your desired life? Who?

The answer is simply YOU, in other words if I say it’s basically yourself. What? My self, No way. It can not be happen so, how is it that I stand by my desires?. I only want to achieve my desired life.

Yes that is true in a way, you want to achieve your desires but you are not going according to the correct pathway as you should follow. Each and everyone can dream about their desired life but the percentage who are really successful at the end are very low. Reason is they are not being consistent in what they want.

Lets go through the pathway you should follow in this journey. To be more precious I would like to simplify the entire pathway into three simple steps. First step is to clearly understand and identify what you really want in your life. This step varies from person to person because we are not the same although we are from the same species. The life I want is not the same as what another person wants. You can take plenty of time to first understand yourself and then your desires. You can do research by yourself as long as you want, you can ask from you parents, friends and family etc. But the final answer you should take on your own. If you select something according to any other person’s opinion but you really don’t want to, you will feel it as the correct decision at the very beginning of this journey. But as the time flies eventually you will understand that’s not your cup of tea.

Then moving on to the second step you should make a plan to achieve your goals. The goals can be uncomfortably big but you should make a plan to achieve them considering your potentials. You must schedule results not the actions. When going through this journey you can make different plans and change them if you are not getting the final result. But when something is wrong or not going according to the order you should not change your goal. In the present day context, it’s very easy to change the goal or to point finger towards someone or something when you are not getting the final outcome. So eventually you become the obstacle for your own life. First you should be the change if you want to change your life. Change your way of thinking, maximize your potentials and most importantly STOP COMPLAINING. Don’t give excuses for your own sake.

As an example if your parents are poor, you should not die as a poor person. If you are dying as a poor person, it’s your fault not someone else’s. You can not give excuses as you like , I don’t have money If I had money I probably will succeed. No those are not reasons. Be grateful to what you have in own life and do unlimited attempts to achieve your desired life. No one is stopping you.

Your life lies in your own hands.

Third and the most important step is being consistent. That means you should take actions over and over again in same way, with the same vigor every time. The excitement you are getting initially when you started going according to the plan, you should keep that excitement along the entire journey. You will feel low, you will feel to the need to give up but you should finish the journey you started.

Stop after you achieved your own desired life. Try over and over again. You must reach the final destination by yourself. This step might take some time, but there’s no problem in how much you are spending if you are in the correct position about yourself. Let the world do their commentary because no one can beat your own potentials. People will talk ill about you, they will try to pull you back ,they will judge you but that’s totally a normal behavior. But what is abnormal is when you try to change yourself according to other’s point of views. Stop explaining about yourself to others. That’s your life no body else’s. Speak less and put on more actions if you want your desired life.

Finally what I really want to emphasize is that you are responsible for your own happiness or sorrow what ever emotional state you are in. And eventually you are the care taker of your life. You can not put on blame to others as you are not getting the life you are dreaming of. There can be lot of struggle but finally you will reach the destination.

Don’t lose hope until you reach the final destination.